The Supreme Court in California handed down a decision today legalizing same sex marriage. My wife and I are among the people who got married in San Francisco's City Hall. Four month later, our marriage was annulled. It looks like that decision still stands, but California is now one of two states in the nation where same sex couples can get married. Massachusetts is the other state, but you have to live in Massachusetts in order to marry there.

Saying "for better or for worse" in City Hall and then signing our marriage licenses was an amazing experience. It meant more to me than I would ever have expected. We argue for the rights, and they're important, but feelings are important too. However briefly the state recognized my marriage, it made a difference to me.

Not being allowed to marry is a pretty strong indication that the society I live in doesn't believe my marriage is real. I came out when I was sixteen, and I simply never dreamed that I would be able to get married.

I don't know if Becky and I will be heading back to California to get hitched for the third time (we had a ceremony for the family after our somewhat impromptu San Francisco Wedding). We're really broke right now, and I don't see any way that we could afford it.

I'm still excited!